Situation when the concentration he said, “no” How hard?

When the love of women are not ready to accept the nature of psychological preparation, the biggest distress is often “how to refuse her boyfriend’s sexual demands?” Words were heavier bar, Pa Shang and his face and each other’s feelings; the words of a light of the bar, but also fear of being understood as “a warm welcome”, “appetizing items at present.” How in the end of the refusal?
Case
Knock-off DVDs along with almost being raped

21-year-old Shu childhood tutor strictly sexually reluctant to casually give way. Six months ago, she met a man. “I love him, and he told me well, can say that love and care. But the biggest problem is that the last two months alone nearly every time, he asked me to have sex relations, driving me crazy , and I do not know how to refuse him. “

Small Shu said that at first only hinted that her boyfriend, she pretended to not understand, the words diverge. Later, her boyfriend directly saying that “we love there.” She replied, “do not want.” “But I found her boyfriend does not seem to take seriously. Because I am gentle character, and had never been tough for him, her boyfriend more and more ‘outrageous’, is often used movements to express their desire naked.” Shu said little.

One night, her boyfriend at home about her to see “Lust, Caution” in DVD. Dating, she was dressed up very beautiful, wearing a short skirt with boots. Sure enough, his eyes hot and happy, hugging, kissing, touching, she receives a comprehensive, hope intimacy stop there.

However, when the sex scenes appear on the screen when her boyfriend suddenly throwing himself, almost raped her. “That really is ‘desperate fighting,’ I have never Zhangzhemetai be so mournful cry. He was scared, and it did not succeed.” Shu said little, and afterwards, her boyfriend look very painful, repeatedly told her “If you do not want to to me, why such a temptation to me? I love you, why do not you trust me? “She cried all night, feeling helpless. “I do not want to break up with him, but let him know the how, I really do not want to?”

Host Beacon

Anachronistic nature of giving is not pleasant, but the disgust and hurt. And a have the same sexual values and know how to love is to respect and reflect the responsibility of men in dating is to avoid the plight of their own sex were forced into the best way. However, in the “fast food of love,” the popular today, few people have enough patience to fully understand in order to select the best lovers, so we can only soldiers to be blocked, the water to soil cover.
Taboo 1
To conceal their true thoughts

First of all to understand that a good look to men to control their own desires, is not insurance, is hard to implement approach. This has nothing to do with the love your male response to sexual stimulation is very direct, it is difficult to control his sexual desire. Perhaps the mature man can be driven by a sense of responsibility, hold back desire, but the more young men, the face of his girlfriend’s “Temptation”, the harder it Rende Zhu.

Thus, when a woman reluctant to have sex, we must firmly grasp the initiative in their own hands. The first step should be bold in expressing their true thoughts. When you feel when you do not want to, we must first firmly stated his own ideas, for example, he began to say “I want”, or just starting to touch the sensitive parts of your time, rather than by his clothes off at half – when courage. Because then, your words are more likely to be recognized as “a warm welcome,” “deliberately appetizing items at present”, but to stimulate his “fighting spirit.”

You can explain their ideas seriously, but do not unnecessarily browbeat, injuring a man’s face, do not forget details, why do not you want to: It is not because they do not love him, but because you did not fully prepared.
Taboo 2
Alone + ambiguous actions provoke misunderstanding

Should be noted that, when we repent, when a number of actions are usually blame others, accused each other of wrong, or enticed by themselves in each other to be “possessed.” In fact not the case. The initiative is often in their own hands that he should first minimize the risk.

Do not try to fight and desires, but should be avoided, and in the future should ensure that they are in similar circumstances to avoid and encounter each other’s “test.” For example, and the lovers are alone do not make ambiguous actions. Like a small Shu as night, his family, the two alone, there are sensitive to the circumstances of the erotic films, which revealed a number of factors have been vague and ambiguous and dangerous, not only did she wear the introduction of reverie, there is no movement occurs in the ambiguous strongly shout “stop.” And whether such behavior is not really so difficult to dominate her boyfriend, but at least it let her boyfriend after the event has accused her of “deliberately temptation” as an excuse.

A responsible man will take into account the feelings of a woman. Try to believe that their partner, when the difference occurs, frank is the best solution. Therefore, you can communicate in full cases, a desire to move up. For example, in desire strikes, got up and turn on the TV, stereo, take a look at the book, or even go for a walk, play and so on.